"Yep we do, and frankly don't care what people think of themselves as long as it doesn't affect others. "
See. We can agree on this, ey?
"The problem has been people with a militant approach"
Extremists I am sure
"They want to change the meaning of words that affects everybody, they want special privileges that affect everyone, they want legislation to punish someone for calling them the wrong pronoun."
Who are "they"?
Anywho, I have no idea how you hot this impression. From what I have seen, Trans people just want to be recognised and respected. Sure some take it too far, but tgere are extremists in every camp.
"In short, people can think they're what whatever, but don't expect others to believe your delusions."
They aren't asking you to belive them. Just to respect them