Just a tip... Feminists aren't a monolith. Many feminists actually are on your side of this issue. The transwomen their enablers call these women "TERFs" as a derogatory slur. That stands for - "Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists".
https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/1605791-trans-exclusionary-radical-feminism-terfs
https://dgrnewsservice.org/civilization/patriarchy/male-violence/terf-isnt-just-slur-hate-speech/
Back in the 1990's, when I was in College - these ideas were still being deemed "essentially contested". Nobody had decided who was right and who was wrong, on a societal level. Sadly, it seems like that occurred without adequate public debate. Now you have people like this -
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kellie-Jay_Keen-Minshull - being attacked physically, and accused of "Hate" - simply for refusing to follow the new orthodoxy.
So I know it will never happen - but my wise counsel would be for people turn down the heat, and look for workable truces in the culture wars. During 'Occupy', we spoke about common, agreed-upon, 'points of unity'. After we have those, all we need to do is agree to respect one another, and mutually recognize our freedom of individual conscience. And boom... Just like that you can agree to work together against the common foes.