A wall would have a concentrating and slowing effect. Hell if we can manage to keep EVERYONE out of area 51 for 70 years, I think we can manage that feat at the border too. I'm not unsympathetic to families, but I have worked with people here, who work in the US and go home to Mexico and their families on the weekends. There are plenty of citizens who travel for work that do similar. Life is about choices and it is not for our government to remove choices that are hard. Not for citizens and certainly not for non-citizens. Just like with an education, do you go in debt for a big university degree or maybe go a more fiscally manageable route with community college or trade school? Again its about choices, and then follow through when the choices we make when carry a price that we have to pay back. Trust me I'm not faulting your choices, what I'm saying is the 2 of you made yours, and are accepting the responsibility you accepted at the onset. Admirable.