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Seriously, help | PLEASE, I REALLY NEED HELP HERE, EVERYONE I CARE ABOUT/LOVE HAS TURNED THEIR BACKS ON ME AND I HAVE NO ONE TO TURN TO. I'M SCARED/ALONE, AND I JUST NEED SOMEONE TO TELL ME IT'S GONNA BE FINE. | made w/ Imgflip meme maker
913 views 3 upvotes Made by Demias_Cassius 5 months ago in GroupTherapy
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2 ups, 5mo,
2 replies
This sounds dumb but try taking slow deep breaths and focusing on a point between your eyes. Don't fight panic, that just makes it worse. Acknowledge that you're feeling panic, and that that's okay, and just sit with it. Don't feed it, don't fight it, just ride it out. When shitty thoughts come into your mind, don't engage with them. Just acknowledge that they're there and then let them go. Eventually your mind will wander to other things.
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1 up, 5mo
i can say that this works Hannibal, this was also the advice you gave to me for fight paranoid thoughts, you remember? so this is a great advice!
1 up, 5mo,
3 replies
Can we talk for a little bit? That might help. It has in the past.
2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
I wish I could but I've got to go to sleep. There aren't many other people around here these days but I'm trying to see if a friend can help. If you don't hear from them soon, I'll be around tomorrow. Hang in there.
2 ups, 5mo
Thanks, I understand.
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0 ups, 5mo
Hiyaaaaa!
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0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
Would you want to talk with me?
1 up, 5mo,
2 replies
Yes please, I'll follow you so you can make a memechat.
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0 ups, 5mo
Okay
2 ups, 5mo
Sorry you're having such a rough time right now.
1 up, 5mo
I mean, pretty much everyone here summarized it up really well, so for my part I'll tell you some good news !

- You'll have more time to think about yourself and your life path.
- Hard times like those is when you can learn special things about no only yourself, but also others.
- You may be inclined to try new hobbies to get our of your usual social bubbles and gets a new friend group.
- After a while, you'll be less affected about social pressure (may not happen tho)
- You'll be more able to spot people or situations that'll lead you in the same rabbit hole.

So yeah if you wanted to see the glass half full ._.
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0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
i'm sorry Demias, i had always regular anxiety so i can't understand panic attacks. regular anxiety already sucks, so let alone panic attacks...
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0 ups, 5mo,
2 replies
sorry my english, the fact is that i'm italian and sometimes i use wrong terms
0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
Your Italian? I'm Italian and Scottish my moms full Italian and my dads full Scottish
0 ups, 5mo
yes i'm italian and also paranoid. in fact i change accounts everytime, but my nicknames are always "Squidward_Squiddy_Italian" or something like that. I start to use Imgflip in January 2024, but i know this website from the distant 2022, even if i never created an account before like now
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0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
anyway i hope that your panic attacks stopped. i know the feeling to have someone you care/love turning their backs on you, it happened everytime in my high school period and also the feeling of being alone and scared, but in this website you can have the opportunity to know amazing persons which can help you feel better
1 up, 5mo,
1 reply
Your English is fine. Thanks. Everyone at my old school sort of turned their backs on me, so it kind of hurts. I know its only a matter of time before the people at my current school do the same.
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0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
yeah, it happened also to me and i think it will happens again in future...
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0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
i give you an advice... spend your time doing things you love like: watching movies, listening music and playing videogames (especially the WWE 2k ones they are the best games ever) and try to not find happiness in others, when i was at school i doing the same and everytime i was feeling hurt when people which i cared turns their backs on me. Now i'm free of school, i don't have a job yet and people states that i'm a failure, but i don't care... Cause everyday i try to avoid my depressive thoughts doing things i like
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0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
even if usually sadness, anxiety and paranoia rules on me instead of happiness... and the worst thing is that my parents thing that is only nervousism and not something serious like depression, so they think that see a therapist for me is useless
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0 ups, 5mo
anyway i think we are peers, i'm 22 and you?
0 ups, 5mo
I do hope you're feeling a little better. I'm sorry to hear you're going through this, but if you don't let it control you it will get better.
0 ups, 5mo,
2 replies
They didn't turn their backs on you, they turned their faces towards you - and revealed who they truly are.

People don't care - friends, family - the other "F" words, I call them. A friend in NEED is a friend indeed because people only need you when they need you. That's how people are. They don't even care about themselves.

I'm not saying this to get you down, or tell you to give up, I'm just saying don't care too much. Not be a selfish prick like them, just don't invest so much of yourself in their nonsense.
2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
Wow, I haven't been that cynical since my 20's. If people couldn't be anything but shitty, you wouldn't be so frustrated with them. You're angry because most of them CHOOSE to be shitty...but there are innumerable exceptions that you blind yourself to by always assuming the worst. I could enumerate social workers, teachers and volunteers as counterpoints, but I'd rather simply point to your post. You didn't have to offer encouragement to a stranger at no benefit to yourself, but you just did, as you have countless times before. Do you really think you're the only one who cares about others, even a little, at no benefit to themselves?
0 ups, 5mo,
3 replies
Hold up, weren't you saying a few weeks ago that I was just being too whatev and you got way past that potential for positiveness and all that stuff ages ago? Goodness, you even advocated getting stoned over hoping for hope.

And where did you get anger from?
I said that's how things are. That's how people are. And I said not to care about it. They don't care, so don't care. That's all. No emotions, no value judgment - just the plain old truth, don't get emotionally involved in what is irrelevant. These people that turn their backs, didn't, they're just two-faced, and they're showing it - their true face.

And in a few years, it won't matter. Heck, he won't even remember most of their names. He will probably look back at all these years like they were the good ol' days, just like I did, just like you did, and just like everybody else who hated grammar school, who hated high school, who hated college, who hated their first job, and who would now do anything they could to get back to those oh so horribly rotten years that we all hated until the day after they were gone.

btw, I literally found that meme by accident on Pinterest just minutes ago.
2 ups, 5mo
I always thought Buddhists were psychopaths...still, they recognize that the only constant is change. This too shall pass...so much for consistency.
2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
Yeah, you can't sense my feelings. Because physics doesn't play favorites. Bemusement and incredulity has given way to disappointment. I attempted to reflect anger because people get out of me what they give. And regardless of what you feel (or don't feel, as the case may be) you do come across to me as bitter, snide and angry. I feel that's a pretty reasonable read. I think that a person who wanted to come across as bitter, snide and angry would have behaved much as you have. If you're not feeling that vibe, that makes 1 of us. And I rather doubt I'm the only one.
0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
My gosh, fella, you weren't kidding last month about how bitter you are about the misery you claimed your life to be. You literally advocated even taking Crack - CRACK - to deal with the pain.

wOw, that IS sad.

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But I still don't care.
2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
That was a poor joke on my part. Sarcasm doesn't come across very well via text. If you'd like to link to the comment we can dissect it properly.

When I say you come across to me as bitter, snide and angry, this isn't a reflection of how I feel about me. If it was, it's how I'd feel about everyone. I've dealt with hundreds of people just here on imgflip, and you stand alone. It's not all I see wherever I look--it's all I see when I look at your recent contributions to the proceedings.
0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
Golly, this is still going on?

"That was just a joke, oh, and can you show me the comment to remind me which one it was?"

Classic.

These mood shifts of yours, btw, how long do they last, give or take?
You said something about taking medication, do they have any effect on them? Positive or negative or just changing them to whatever they may?
2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
I'd dig up that convo if I gave a shit but you'd evade meaningful discourse so there's no point. You can hurl snarky barbs at my expense just fine without my active involvement.

Well, I have bi-polar depression that's still yet to be fully managed with medication. I'd estimate 2-week cycles, give or take. I'm pretty stable at present. Would you have me stop taking meds and/or kill myself? That seems to be your preference, given your fondness for mocking medication. Just what are you hoping to get out of this little exchange, aside from blowing up OPs notifs with toxic garbage? From both of us, not just you.
0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
You forget I know your game, you told me it early last year.
This is just a bogus character, a way of eliciting a response so that you can elicit an emotional response of your own in return because reasons. All that bipolar & medication stuff is just to put-on, all for show. Just as this Concerned Citizens Bigade routine.

The OP asked you for advice, but oops, you had to go to bed. And then when you got up, and for the next 2 days, did you respond to him? No, you just went on this repetitious redundant exercise in irrelevance showing that no one can project pent up bitterness like you. Yeah, just a little to cartoonishly textbook to be real.

But hey, you just keep doing you, and maybe eventually I'll reconsider accepting your invitation to assist you with this stream.
jk, I won't.
2 ups, 5mo
Well that's a relief. And now to leave you to your lonely, bored wallowing like I should have yesterday. Let's see if I can learn from the mistake this time.
2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
Looking back isn't much better than looking forward. It's the present that matters, even if its true value is limited to right now.

You've ranted awfully passionately about the way things are. I read anger into that, but I could be wrong.

I've certainly bounced around with respect to my own disposition. At present I'm feeling like the call little center of the universe. Guess my meds are working better than I thought.
0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
'Skip the past, now is now........ my meds are doing wonders to help me escape yesterday.'

Got it.

PRO TIP: I say what I say, and a bit wordy of that. That should suffice. No improvisation input via anybody else's projections necessary.

So your advice of the day is dependent on the vagaries of your mood?

'Wow, I haven't been that cynical since 20 days ago, only more so. A lot.'

2 weeks ago it was was FTW, legalize drugs, get stoned if meds don't do the trick.
Today it's, "Modda, can't you just give em all a hug?"

If you want to dispense advice, consistency is key.

"Do you really think you're the only one who cares about others, even a little, at no benefit to themselves?"

Did I not say like the complete total opposite?
They don't care, you don't care, I don't care, the OP shouldn't care, because nobody cares. Nobody.

Now I'm not saying that so what, the OP doesn't matter, I don't give a crap, so what, que sera, c'est la vie. I'm saying that those people, the nasty people, the people that don't care people, they don't care, because they don't care, so therefore do not care about them not caring, because they do not matter, they are irrelevant, and in a couple years they will not even exist.

And in terms of caring - 5 years from now, 10 years from now, you tell me about how swell Thanksgiving Day was with the OP as a guest in your house. Then we'll talk about who really cares.

Nobody cares.
2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
My meds are doing wonders to help me deal with today. Speaking of consistency, why do I want to escape something that's already gone, and that according to you I missed the second it ended? In any case, the past doesn't enter into it.

I have issues with hope--in a broad, philosophical sense. Cynicism is by definition limited to disposition towards people. I am hopeless. I am not completely cynical, particularly not when it comes to discrete individuals. Whether you care or not, it's also dangerous to conflate psych meds with street drugs.

Following the consistency theme, if no one cares, and not caring makes people nasty, then we're all nasty and shouldn't care about each other because none of us care about each other so why care? I can throw a wrench in whatever permutation of that reasoning you care to present by pointing out that you may speak for yourself, and you may have the conceit to speak for everyone else except for me. You don't get to project onto me. And I care. "Nobody cares" is something 12 year olds say to hurt other 12 year olds.

As for 5 or 10 years from now--that's future tripping. "Cares" is present tense. Right now I care. The future, like the past, is an abstraction that I suppose much like ourselves exists only as an idea in our minds. (I do have fond recollections of Thanksgivings past, thankfully. I find gratitude a more nourishing meditation than nihilism, even if I don't practice it often or well.)
0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
*le sigh*

How quaint, a ''Who is pissing projection more" contest.

Clarification time:

Whatever anger you're feeling, I assure you YOU'RE feeling, not me.

You do not speak for me. Nor anyone else here.
But the OP asked to speak WITH you. That was yesterday. Would you like my permish? Ok, I'll do it. Go ahead, care. Show the OP that you care, and care away to your heart's content and his as well.

Drugs not good, mkay?
But hey, don't take my word for it, I'll prove it to you. Have they yet worked for you? No? Well who knows, maybe decades down the line, they'll help ease the pain that chains you from so far far back. Maybe. But not today.

If everybody lies, and nothing will stop them from lying - not even the specter of Hell and miffed exes and whatever else people wip up to stop themselves from lying - then why not just keep lying?
Yeah, that's some fine line of logic you got running there.

Nobody cares. Nobody,,,
2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
Modda, you called me out for projecting and then two sentences later proceeded to project on me. Lo the sin of hypocrisy! (And continue to project onto me...and make false assumptions, and lob logical fallacies. I'm done trying to make sense of it at this point, since even you can't make sense of your bullshit when it's shoved back under your nose.)

I'm not interested in pissing contests. I was interested in you acknowledging that you cared enough to chime in. And what have you done? "I don't care I don't care I don't care, I'm not saying that I don't give a shit. Nobody cares, go ahead and care, you can care all you want to, nobody cares." (What was that you said about advice and consistency?)

If you want your words to convey coherent meaning on their own, you'll need to be more thoughtful when you choose them. But hooray! I'm done caring about that.
0 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
Fella, as I pointed out in the past, your pass-agress stick gets a little played out after a while. If this is how you handle a basic comment, I'm not sure this 'Concerned Citizens' posturing that you adopted for the sake of the depressed is the right gig right for you.

Your musical chairs approach ain't exactly cute either, as well as highly questionable - this week it's a big hug and a dose of positivity is all we need, the other week you were literally advocating not just prescription drugs but actual illicit illegal drug use because everything is hopeless anyways so might as well be stoned to a schoolkid who was in vulnerable sad state of mind. Let that sink in.

Do you not see why I did not accept modship of this stream when you offered it to me?

We dealt with your same confusion with yet another stream that you offered me modding of a few months ago, only for you to flip yet again as per usual on account of a stalker I've had since 2019 who keeps mimicking me and wanted to take my place in that stream so wasn't too comfy with the object of his mimicry to be there as well because two of that kind ain't good company.

Settle down. Make up your mind. Get a handle on yourself and what you're doing. Because here you are trying to advise people on how they should live their lives, people who are in a fragile state. It's not about how you appear or come across, it's about you messing with their minds. That ain't funny,,,
2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
This from the guy who said I don't speak for anyone yet claims over and over that NOBODY cares. And just who are you trying to convince? I've already explained several good reasons for rejecting that premise, so you're not convincing me. And people secure in their beliefs don't feel the need to endlessly repeat them. So...a verbal tic, perhaps? Like I said, I see no upside to engaging with you. It leads nowhere and the process is tedious. Good thing none of this will be on the test.
0 ups, 5mo
Yeah they don't.

The OP said it.

You've said it.

I said it.

Congrats we're on the same page.

Now if you sense anger in your interpretation of what I've said, that's on you, because you do sense anger - I'm agreeing with you on that - and the anger that you sense is, of course, your own. That's why you sense it. Cuz it's yours.
You can't sense my feelings. Because physics is a thing.
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2 ups, 5mo,
1 reply
Yeah modda, you're right. How said a character called Ali Rahmet Fekeli in the turkish soap opera BitterLands, i don't know if you guys know it (in Italy is broadcast everyday with the name of Terra Amara) a person for being happy should find the happiness in the things which he like and not try find happiness in others, cause sometimes we can hurt ourselves cause not all persons are nice with us
0 ups, 5mo
No, they don't show that soap opera here.
But yeah, we get happiness from what makes us happy. Hoping to get happiness from other people who don't even care isn't going to go very far unless somebody truly enjoys misery.
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PLEASE, I REALLY NEED HELP HERE, EVERYONE I CARE ABOUT/LOVE HAS TURNED THEIR BACKS ON ME AND I HAVE NO ONE TO TURN TO. I'M SCARED/ALONE, AND I JUST NEED SOMEONE TO TELL ME IT'S GONNA BE FINE.