Why do black people succeed less often? Poor life choices. Same goes for whites, or any other race that does not succeed. Poor life choices. Every decision in this life was made by no one else but you. Even when others made these decisions for you, it was your decision to allow them to do so. Responsibility falls directly on the individual.
"Having a giant setback when a child isn't a life choice." - don't think I follow.
Equal opportunities will not produce equal outcome. Human element is not considered in the equation. You leave people to their own devices, they will choose based on their own interest/intuition. For example, men are more interested in 'things', where as women are more interested in 'people'. This is reflected in 80% of engineers are men, and about the same for women nurses.
It's impossible for parents raising their children in the same household, with the same resources, same opportunities, same attention, love, care, and environment provided to achieve equal outcome, how is the government be able to achieve that?? It wont. Equity, and the equal outcome, is a leftist (marxist) lie designed to being everyone to their knees.