Dinner conversation with my son is never easy, he just can't relate to other people

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I wouldn't know what to say about this, except...Anything Yoda might say.
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Mine too. He started with spiders, then aliens, predators, DragonBall Z pretty much all of those can hold his attention. I know how hard it is though because we get so tired of listening to it, then we feel guilty or neglectful for needing them to stop.
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Apples. Trees. Irony. ;-)
I know it can be tiring, my son was spectrum when he was little ... now he is just quirky like me. :-D Spectrum people are like everyone else ... unique. Find something you both love and then it won't seem so tiresome. We gotta meet people where there are no matter if someone is spectrum or not. There WILL be a day when you will miss this. That's a promise. I do.
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I don't think she is saying that at all. It sounds to me like she is a single mother with one child and it is really really hard not to miss that person your child might be had they not been afflicted, many people do not have the money for all the occupational therapy, social immersion therapy, or a private school which is really what you need to overcome the socially backward behaviors. She is frustrated because if you engage in conversation, like I do with son, he wants me to listen but input is not wanted other than agreement. Other subjects brought up, or interjected, and a light goes off til you are done talking then they pick up where they intended to speak on next as if you hadn't spoken. There are techniques to curb the behavior but it is always I know I know I'm sorry I'm sorry and it makes me feel even worse because he shouldn't have to feel sorry or say it. I feel like I'm trying to change who he is. I have other people in my home to talk to though, she sounded lonely, and that is why I responded.
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That is presuming a LOT. What makes you think they are female or single or only have one child?
I am sure this was just a momentary, let one's hair down, confession of exhaustion. I was just trying to encourage them and remind them that even with Autism ... times change, they grow up and you miss the very things that drove you batty.
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I hear your heart as well. The Spectrum IS hard on moms. We try to take it on ourselves. We can not. It is not our walk. We just have to remember that we are called to be mom to all our kids ... the same.
If he wants your agreement then agree (as I am sure you do). Isn't that what we all want? We have the whole conversations with the back and forth ... to what end? (more times than not) In order to reassure ourselves that we and they are still walking the same path. "Look at this new piece (or same old piece) of information I picked up. Let's look at it together."
If he doesn't want your participation, just your agreement, it sounds like 1) the same things that little children do and 2) he is keeping with the efficiency of being on the spectrum lol "Let's have a conversation but cut out all the unnecessary chit chat" lol
I am not making light of any of this, just trying to say that I have been there to some degree and remind you that when you feel overwhelmed .. just stop and reframe what is happening. It really will not always be this way. We ALL evolve ;-)
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I agreed with all that you had said, when I said I didnt think it was that, I was really talking to three others here that believed this is insulting, that she thinks her son is bad, Or has no self interest about space. I just had to pick one to reply to and you are the one that understands. I did presume a lot you are right. It probably was just a momentary lapse of exhaustion. Thank You :)
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No worries. So much gets lost in this format. :-) I may not have worded things right to get my point across.
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But outer space is so cool...
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Incase you were wondering, i have Asperger Syndrome.
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I would say that one does not have to have a desire to converse to have manners. :-) One's location on the spectrum are not an excuse for superiority. (And frankly, unless you have a conversation you have no data to base that assumption on ;-) Autism is not synonymous with genius.
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Then I would say that this is part of the social intricacy that you are missing, because 1)That is not a nice thing to say & 2) most people make an effort to be concerned about others and their interests too as an exchange. Which is what makes a conversation into a true conversation and what establishes relationships & friendships. Otherwise you are just lecturing. Most people, especially make efforts to listen to thier parents even if it's pointless complaints because we love them and that is how we make them feel important and loved by us.
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Also, that is not Autism or Aspies that you are describing. That is narcissism ;-) As long as we are living we are learning and sometimes the best information comes from some of the darndest places :-D
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*who
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Space is pretty interesting to me. I can get so in depth with theories.
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628, 395 views and only 11 upvotes.
Wtf... for shame people.
This should be on the front page.
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This meme comes from somewhere else like reddit.
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Thatd because it comes from reddit, and there are like a million people on there.
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This meme give me the impression that the maker thinks autistic people are bad. I wonder why it even got this many upvotes.
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mother of god, I talk about outer space sometimes, I must be mildly autistic
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This is somewhat insulting
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