The secret is not giving up. You may say it is not fair to you. How is it different than a bee collecting pollen all day so that at the end of its shift gets attack by a wasp and dismembered to be fed to the wasp larvae who needs to feed. Then, how is that different than the the wasp who has been hunting all day to feed the colonies larvae but as soon as it finds food a bird snatches it and feed it to its baby birds? Sometimes tou have to accept what you been given and move forward instead of being locked into a victim mind state that will blind you from opportunities and predators ahead of you.