Fs for all the dudes in here who tryna help you. But. Getting her to talk about the guy and find out what's wrong with him is not going to work. In fact, it'll put you in the place you most want to avoid. The Friend Zone. Here's my suggestion: 1 Make friends but don't hang out with her all the time, use your absence to your advantage. 2 take an honest look at yourself and the other guy. Now, if this guy is a jock or athletic in any way and you are not, that's a major problem. If you want great, and you think your crush is great, then be great. This could mean working out, doing sports, or spending a little less time on your PS4 or XBOX. Whatever you choose to do, ask yourself beforehand what you're actually willing to do in order to get it. Count the cost, then do it! You shall! You will! You must!!