I don't think Paul's writings are authoritative. When I read the Bible the first time, what I read made sense when it came to God's or Jesus' actions and words. I noticed that the seeming contradictions were when supposed people of God did their own thing thinking they were justified because they were God's people.
When I got to Paul's writings, he seemed very different from the other apostles. Very egotistical, for example. When I got to what he said about women, I was appalled. And then I thought, what if I'm just feeling prideful because I considered myself to be a "feminist" and I was hurt by the idea that God wanted me to basically cover my head and only speak to my husband at home. I prayed about it because it confused me. As far as I knew and from what I'd read, Jesus never treated women that way.
I started seeing YT suggestions online (randomly BTW) with titles suggesting that Paul was a fake apostle. I eventually found the site I linked in my previous comment.