I think I ended up giving her an excuse not to see him. It's always been a struggle trying to get her to spend time with him. So now she can blame me I guess and not feel guilty or something I don't begin to understand it.
Thing is my son had been acting upset for a while, it wasn't until I saw how relieved he was when I told him he didn't have to go back there that I realized how bad it really was there. Hurts man, it's a fathers job to protect their children and I failed at that because I trusted his mother. Apparently she was letting her boyfriend spank my kid, which makes me mad enough to blow knee caps off a mutha facka. So yeah it is better now, his mother is really going to have to jump through a lot of hoops before I will ever trust her to take care of my son like she should.