queer technically but it depends on the personal labels because sometimes nb people will still use more traditionally feminine or masc labels like lesbian (non-male attracted to non males) which yes they can use these labels without misgendering themselves. it’s different per person and couple
depends on the asexual. if you did that with me i would play, not every asexual is disgusted by sex, it really just depends. asexuality is a wide and subjective spectrum ^^