Yes, it's a shame it has to get this bad. But, sometimes it's just the kid. I have a friend with 4 kids born in only 6 years. Three turned out fantastic. That second born one was a terror, drugs, in and out of jail, pregnant, two kids by different daddies, he had to sue her to get custody of his grandchildren and is raising them himself. They've turned out fantastic. That one child though ... sometimes there are anomalies that defy explanation.