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I NEED HELP; SHOULD I TELL MY MOM THAT I'M A FURRY AND IF SO HOW SHOULD I BC SHE THINKS IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU KNOW WHAT | made w/ Imgflip meme maker
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3 ups, 4w,
6 replies
As someone who DID tell my parents I was a furry when I was probably about the age you are now, I have some thoughts.

1: Take a good look at your situation. Do your parents accept alternative lifestyles? What do they think of people who dress in alt fashion? Do they particularly care about cosplayers? If any of these answers are negative, I don’t think you should bother telling them.
2:Being a furry is not something where you need to “come out”. It’s perfectly okay to enjoy the furry fandom out in the open and never have the conversation of “hey, I’m a furry”, because in my experience, parents don’t care. They don’t. Truly. Unless you’re in a situation where you think it would be BENEFICIAL to tell them, just don’t.

My parents are well aware I’m a furry, hell, I’m actively making a fursuit on the kitchen table. And while they think it’s weird, and they don’t want me attending conventions until I move out, they aren’t any different. Most parents are just like this. So truly, if you don’t feel like you need to tell them, why bother?
0 ups, 4w
I don't know 1 but I know 2 and it is beneficial because I want to start making a head
0 ups, 5d
Thanks for running the server and handing out advice. Keep up. The good work :)
0 ups, 4w,
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this is a college essay
1 up, 4w,
1 reply
It’s less than a paragraph.
0 ups, 4w
oh
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1 up, 4w,
1 reply
magma gotta be through.
0 ups, 4w
but good job
1 up, 4w,
1 reply
Oddly appropriate username.
0 ups, 4w
;-; dang
0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
hello i remeber you
0 ups, 2w,
1 reply
halo :D
0 ups, 7d,
1 reply
your the guy who kept insulting my image non stop
0 ups, 7d
Ok
I sorry :(
0 ups, 5d
Hey, I just want to say your advice is great and keep sharing your experiences and helping people.
Ace the fur
0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
That being said though, my fursuit-maker friend’s mom goes to cons with them all the time and now has her own sona because she loves furries so much. So who knows!

Trust your gut, man! ;)
0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
your friends sound so much better than mine
0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
mine abuse me every day and this website is my only escape
0 ups, 4w,
2 replies
I'm about to smash one of their faces in
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0 ups, 4w
that's a little violent
0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
if you go through my posts you will see why
0 ups, 4w
Call cps or smth if they're abusive
0 ups, 4w
My parents are just cautious and protective about me being a furry because they want me to be safe and want me to "check yourself before you wreck yourself" due to there being some negative connotations about the furry fandom and that I have a slight deficit for social and psycho-emotional development due to my childhood being a bit of a roller-coaster (i may be gullible and impulsive as a result), but other than that they're really chill about it - they don't mind me being a furry, they just want to make sure I engage in it safely :>
1 up, 12h
UPDATE: MY MOM FINALLY TOOK MY MANY HINTS BUT I HAVEN’T TOLD HER YET
0 ups, 4w
I'll never have this issue for two reasons, but.. I wouldn't tell her, especially if she sees it as a bad thing.
0 ups, 5d,
2 replies
I told my parents about a year ago and for me it went pretty well. Jokes are made and we all laugh but the stress it caused me trying to figure out what the heck to do was extremely tiring and it took a big tole on my health at the time. I do have a few suggestions for you. First of all YOU DON'T HAVE TO. It's not like tonight out as a transgender or coming out of the closet which I've also done. Furries are people who like animals who have human traits for those who don't know. I do have a few recommendations

• take your time: slowly start showing traits. I'm not saying wear a tail and cat ears to the next family gathering but show your parents a meme or two you found on Reddit or IMG. What I'm saying is pretend that you just found out about the fandom and are looking into it. This is one of the slower methods (1-3 weeks depending on your situation)

• sitting down at the table: one of the things I've tried to do was sit them down and say "do you know what a furry is?" I had a whole script but decided to tell them that I had just gotten into a professional gaming league and have started making money off of my hobbies. Yeah I chickened out. But sit them down at the table after dinner and ask them if they know. Only show the good sides and if they dig deeper they will likely find bad sources and good sources. It's about a 66% good and 34% bad ratio. Don't push it, take your time. You'd rather them let them make their own opinion then having you force your opinion and them suspicious why you only showed them the front of the painting. (It also takes pretty long 1 week max)

• let the fire spread: tell a family member like an aunt or uncle and maybe a cousin. The

• what not to do: this is what I did. It started with me showing some art work I made of my Fursona. I didn't go well they started causing me of being a zoophile and a wh*re. My parents are very old fashion. House wife's, sexism, white men to white women only. I decided to ignore them and head to my room. I then later texted them a bias video from Visual Venture that showed them the terrible side of the fandom. I then showed them a video which I've since lost and I let them decide I was eleven at the time and they called it a phase an act for attention. They soon warmed up to it after having hours of interrogation about why I was five minutes late and why I forgot my phone at school. It was a nightmare. They've seince warmed up to it but sadly I can't call dogs cute anymore :(
0 ups, 5d,
2 replies
Currently I’m slowly showing traits sort of like listening to furry related music and watching furry related videos my parents have only noticed the videos as of right now but I think they have forgotten about it
0 ups, 5d
My mom is one of those people that have the wrong idea and my dad knows nothing ( that I know of )
0 ups, 5d,
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Yeah, take it easy. Off of what you're telling me it's going pretty well.
good luck, Ace the fur
0 ups, 5d
Ps: know your limits if the stress gets too much just stop. You don't have a deadline.
0 ups, 4d,
1 reply
I’m just going to let them catch me watching furry stuff
0 ups, 4d,
1 reply
Age of course bc I’m a minor
0 ups, 4d
Sounds like you have a plan. Good luck, don't let me down.
0 ups, 5d
• let the fire spread: tell a family member like an aunt or uncle maybe even a cousin. They will hopefully tell your parents and from there I would go with the motion of the ocean. And let nature do its thing.

I didn't have enough characters to finish my little rant. I'll get to the point quickly. I'm currently 13 and a gay furry. I used to be homophobic around people who weren't "normal" before I learned about the wonderful word of Anthro's. You might question your sexuality like what me and the other 80% of furries out there. I'm not saying that you will but it happened to me and my boyfriend. Our parents are good friends and they don't know about our situation or sexuality's. Hopefully they never do but I just want to let you know that you have nothing planned for your future. Im not trying to be mean but a year ago i was straight now im doing doughnuts around a rainbow. I didn't know what was going to happen. How could I. What I'm trying to say is Tell them or don't I'm not in your situation and you would know best what to do don't have a meticulous plan for everything take baby steps and don't rush what your doing can be very sensitive to some individuals. Please come back with any updates or questions I would be delighted to answer anything or tell you about any experiences I've had with family, friends, feelings, etc.

Best wishes, Ace the fur
0 ups, 4w
no
0 ups, 4w,
3 replies
I honestly think you shouldn't if she's going to react negatively. It depends on age tho. Elemantry to sixth grade HELL NO
7th and 8th grade, only if she'll be chill
Highschool, probably shouldn't yet
Anything beyond that where you're self sufficient, go ahead. You don't need to care anyways. Just explain it to your family calmly and reasonably.
I'm personally neve gonna tell them bc it's not something you should have to make a big deal about, it's just who you are and what you enjoy. Be yourself as much as you safely can and let people just deal with it. Wishing you luck on whatever you decide
1 up, 4w,
1 reply
I don't know how she will react
0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
Honestly if she thinks it's a sex thing or smth, don't. But if there's a chance to explain, do it. Don't immediately say "hey mom I'm a furry" try starting with just showing her some art of an oc or smth (this is gonna take time btw), and then move on to telling her (if you want a fursuit [EXPENSIVE AS HELL, DON'T GET ONE UNLESS YOU'RE SURE YOU CAN AFFORD IT]) that you would be interested in like, a Halloween costume or smth of your fursona(s). If that all goes fine, then later on you can move on to explaining what a furry actually is (using your own life as evidence and stuff) so your mom doesn't freak out. Or you can just be like me and have three dinomasks (unfurred T-T) and stupid parents so they have no idea what you are lol.
Idk, your choice.
0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
I could text her evidence
0 ups, 4w
if I did I would be pretty much telling her i'm a furry
1 up, 5d
i told people about my interests at 11... not a good idea. I haven't told them I'm gay but I'm hopefully never going to. They have a hair trigger and I don't want to risk the mine exploding.
1 up, 5d,
1 reply
That's a good representation of coming out. Nice writing BTW
0 ups, 5d
Thanks, this is what I do online off imgflip so I have a lot of practice writing like this
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0 ups, 4w,
2 replies
Don’t

I don’t trust my mom now
0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
why
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0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
I told her and I specifically said not to tell my dad and she did
0 ups, 4w,
1 reply
Oh
0 ups, 4w
That will most likely happen to me if I tell her
0 ups, 5d,
1 reply
Very fair, it's joke after joke. I'm surprised I haven't snapped yet.
0 ups, 11h,
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It’s not jokes it was bullying that escalated to them sending furry porn to the group chat
0 ups, 10h
OwO, they did that? That's miles over the line.
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