Fair question, Dr.S. I was raised to never say the word as it was disrespectful. Now, I hear it frequently but usually always from people of color. Our kids never used the word...we would have landed smack on them if they ever did.
People are different. Everyone deserves respect until they let us down and then no longer deserve it. There are many good black people in this world and there are many bad ones. Same with white people. But we seemed to get along well 'up until Obama'. I saw a change then from the divisive nature he exemplified. Instead of working to bring us all further together, he separated us like no one before him had done. He went a long way to victimize black people resulting in ungrateful/hateful attitudes.
The result of his tenure seemed to be DEI...very divisive, very anti-white and very controlling. SAD to experience it because we have many people of color in our lives who do not deserve this step back in time and whites don't deserve it either. Along with it came an attitude of 'victimhood' and a feeling that something is 'owed' to them even though they personally never experienced slavery and have equal rights today.
This has been a deadly cocktail for America. It divides and does not unite us. The police have been labelled as toxic to the point that we have defunded them in communities much to the dismay of good citizens of all colors from all walks of life. We have experienced the rise in crime as we know that bad behavior left unpunished leads to more bad behavior.
As Americans, we should be similar in attitude and NOT diverse. Diversity has a way of separating and not uniting people. That is the truth....not politically correct....but the reality of it all.