Why is it so damn hard for people to just love each other? Not every pedophile rapes kids... not every pedophile even fantasizes over sex! Thats why there's an asexual pedophile flag. I'm not saying it's right to be in a romantic relationship either. I'm just stating facts. Paraphilia is uncontrollable, the actions are. And the ones who do act out their urges should be punished, but just like any other criminal, give a second chance. Give a third chance. We're people, not machines. We make mistakes. Sometimes over and over. Trust me. I know.