1. The fact that somebody I look up to is currently telling me that a horrible racial slur is okay, is sorta f**king upsetting. And also, as a person who has told me, that has argued with me, saying Christianity isn't sexist racist etc. You're sorta doing a bad job at changing my mind.
2. I'd like to ask if you're Trans. Cuz if you aren't you have no right to tell me, a Trans person, what I should and should not be offended by.
3. Generalizing horrible things to say as "jUst woRDs" is basically saying that somebody taking a baseball bat and breaking your skull with it, is just a pat on the head.
4. Offensive is offensive. There's no "well they didn't just say it!" Racist people don't say they hate black people, but they still do. E.g. you probably, considering you're literally trying to make the n word okay.