I used to be spanked as a young child when I misbehaved!

I got the paddle in school in Florida. I never acted up again there. My mother, the sweet southern bell she was would make us go get the belt. All of us turned out to be professionals in our field.

The argument that it only teaches kids violence is false. If done right it teaches boundaries they do not want to cross.

My own kid was a trouble maker in school, full of the they don’t tell me what to do crap. The worst was his music class. I asked why he was always in trouble and he told me he wanted to make the teacher so mad that he would hit him and lose his job.

I told him if the teacher ever hit him to come find me and we would march right back there...so I could hold him down while the teacher hit him again. He stopped acting up.

I'm not opposed to it, although I have not actually administered one yet. We use time out, and so far that does pretty good. There have been a couple of instances where a hand pop was used. I feel the concept is not to harm the child, it's just an attention getter and as Boma said, establish lines that they know not to cross.

Get a buggy whip. Before it's too late!!!!!!

I say this and forget that no one outside of the south calls shopping carts buggys

If I wasn't relentlessly beaten by wooden spoons and belts, I'd be dead long ago. Like others have said, it has a use, if not utilized out of frustration and anger.

Not a parent, but I think it's a good disciplinary measure. My thoughts:

1) Don't abuse it. Different offenses call for different punishments.
2) Don't use your hand. This connects you to the physical pain in a child's mind. Use an inanimate object. I still shudder a bit at the thought of that Sears paint stirrer -- I only got that twice!
3) EXPLAIN WHY YOU'RE SPANKING YOUR CHILD AND HOW MANY YOU'RE GIVING.

My parents did these. I turned out alright.

My youngest brother is a spoiled brat, and I think that's partly because my dad stopped using spanks.
I was spanked when I was a child and I'm not traumatized. I knew it was for my own good.

Me: "when I was a child"
Also me: *still technically a child*

Youre *technicly* a teenager now, go ahead and treat yourself like one. You treat yourself like a child, and not really in a good way. Have you noticed that?

Hm? What do you mean?

Its like... youre just like, "Im just a kid, I cant do that." you can, if you want too. Im serious, you say that (as inadvertantly as it is sometimes) a lot, to be honest.

Or maybe Im overthinking, I mean, Im high on painkillers.

Really? I say that a lot?
I mean, I'm only at the tender age of *checks calender* middle school

You do it a lot more than you think.

huh

When you get 18 notifications from TWO people in a row!

GreenChilli, the ho from hell.

I don't remember that.

You mean like from GreenChilibiitch & Timber?

GreenChilibiitch?

I think it's ok to a degree. Sometimes kids don't get the point just by talking to them. I'd say don't do it too often, as it will lose it's effectiveness, or too fiercely. Don't lose your temper & just wail on a kid.

I know it is popularly condemned now days, but honestly our society was much more civil when parents spanked misbehaving children. There is a difference between discipline and abuse and thinking people can distinguish that difference.

This is what is wrong with society today!

I did it, I have great kids. I also did time outs, stand in corner. I would ground them. Then we would sit down at dinner time and talk about what happen (cause & effect.) But, with punishment you must also show love, understanding. Love always came first.

Its needed in many cases but theres also a point to where you cam go too far.

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