I appreciate the point you're trying to make, that allegations are not (and should not be) considered as anything more than that. Kids do stupid things, and should be given the opportunity to learn from minor transgressions (shoplifting, etc.). The idea that an unfounded accusation is enough to destroy someone's life is more than a little unsettling to me as well. Since this accusation is of a particularly serious crime, I support the investigation and will accept the conclusions drawn from them. Anyone interested in the integrity of the Supreme Court would do the same (like you! Yay!). We'll see how it goes down, and I look forward to the chance of us agreeing on something :)
The questions concerning her drinking, however, are a part of the problem. While the same questions are being asked of him, the reason for them is different. If she answers yes, that she was drunk when he assaulted her, and that she was often drunk during that time in her life, she's done - it torpedoes any ability she has to talk about what happened, EVEN IF IT DID INDEED HAPPEN. If he answers yes, that he was drunk that night, and that he was often drunk during that time in his life, it becomes cause for further investigation, but still leaving open the window that he may be innocent. The double-standards present are crippling for women, and are a main reason thousands of assaults go unreported every year.