Same end result? A person dying in a car accident, and a person dying in vehicular homicide may be the same result for the victim. But it makes an eternity of difference to the person who committed the killing.
God specifically told us, through scriptures and modern prophets, NOT to murder innocent children in the womb. Just as He commanded us not to murder people with knives, poison, or guns. However, He'll never take away our free will. He allows us to make our choices, good or bad, and suffer the consequences. Often He lets people's evil choices afflict His innocent children, so that His judgment upon those sinners at the last day will be just. That's why He didn't stop the German people from giving Hitler power. But He aided the Allies when they made the good choice of toppling Hitler.
Look, a big part of faith in God is your attitude. If you really don't want to believe in God, then a debate will go on forever, and no explanation I give will be satisfactory.