If you want the services, you have to "pay up the ladder", also no one gives you anything for free, even the government. If you want them to have less control than you have to not rely on their money, their roads, their school subsidies, their health and food subsidies. Its wishful thinking that America can continue to have a porous border and still be able to provide all it provides to citizens AND to immigrants. If you cannot agree that the flow has to be stopped then there is no point to continuing the conversation.