"I'm not anti-gay heck"
Yes you are.
"I grew up just south of San Francisco"
Does not make you Immune from NOT being Homophobic or antigay.
"there was even a gay/lesbian club at my highschool"
I TOLERATE THE EXISTENCE OF TEH GAYS!!111 therefore not homophobic or antigay.
"So I have been around a lot of alternate lifestyle individuals"
*loudly bangs head on table*
"which I believe is key to not being afraid of them"
You are afraid of LGBT people? Not LGBT people being afraid of cisgender, straight (assuming you aren't LGBT, or a drag queen yourself) people because you're kind is literally murdering us???????
Are you FOR REAL???
"but I personally know that your sexuality doesn't determine the type of person you are"
Oh thank you wise one.
"People should be judged on how they treat others and that is it..."
People - particularly straight, cis people - should be judged on how they acknowledge their privilege (see http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2012/01/29-examples-of-heterosexual-privilege) and not pretending your NOT homophobic because "I was in the circumference of gays, therefore not homophobic.)