Sorry about your divorce, that's got to be hard. It was strong and it still has the potential to be again. Not married and no kids, but he's stuck with me the last 4 years, even though the last 2 have been awful, and he hasn't said he wants it to end yet. He's bad at communicating and emotions and I do too much of both. He wasn't always bad at it, he became that way the worse things got. So he won't tell me what exactly i'm supposed to do to fix things. All i've ever heard is that when men withdraw, you let them, cause if you try to get close they'll withdraw more. I do not get him at all sometimes.
He and I were close but things have been strained the last 2 years. I had several bipolar episodes, we fought constantly, then I got better this year. I'm trying to repair things, but the more I try, the more he pulls away. He says he needs time but it's been several months and nothing's changed. Would it be better to back off completely and let him come to me? I don't want to lose him, but my efforts aren't working.
Male imgflippers, if you were in this situation, what would you recommend the woman do if they want things to work out?
That part is difficult. So is it true that when a man withdraws you're really supposed to leave them alone until they come back? Why is it when this happens and a woman tries to reach out that they withdraw even more from them?