Some men complain about women being confusing and complicated. From my experience, men are just as confusing.

I've got a few years before the 30 mark, but it only seems to get harder the older you get.

touching girls is now illegal. thanks politicians and feminists.

Even then, the women that are looking for a good time can be scary to a guy. I got propositioned by a woman last night that, 30-40 years ago, I would have jumped her bones without a second thought. She wasn't bad looking, either, but I felt her lifestyle brought too much baggage with it.

I doubt I'll remain celebate the rest of my life, but I'm now a lot more choosy about bed partners.

once a baby boomer lady admits that she's a smoker and used to do drugs (including probably speed as well) yeah I agree that is a real turn off. then see her pics of her two little yip yip dogs and fogeddaboutit !

Well, she was, at most, my kid's age. Dunno about dogs, as she said she was just staying with friends all the time.

Smoking? I smoke, so that's not an issue.

Drugs? Yeah, that was the turn off.

Im no daint. Bit if I do get with another lady, it'll be one that doesn't live to drink or do drugs. When I say I enjoy an occassional beer, I'm talking less than a case a year.

Heck, even if she has yappy dogs or kids, those aren't a problem. I have two cats. If I were looking, it would be for a woman that can take responsibility for herself and her actions. My neighbor, her friend? He'd bone her in a minute if he could.

..that moment when you realize she's had a few beers and must also be on anti-depressants.. (2 tastes that are not supposed to taste great together)

Lack of communication? We spent thousands of years keeping quiet as we stalked prey, using only the slightest hand gestures to communicate.

I don't know, seems like the more I try to communicate, the less men want to.

:-p

Even when they're being an ass. There are times I think life would be a whole lot simpler if our brains never let our emotions progress beyond liking someone.

Very true.

if you can count the number of things a guy does for you, that make you feel loved, on 3 or more fingers...i'd say he was a keeper...less than that...not so much :-/

It's a problem that has become worse in the last century as role models change, or rather, our roles in society.

At the time I was born, homemakers were only just starting to join the work force. Sure, some women worked outside the home, but supporting the family was "man's work". A lady I've been seeing that I've known since she was 12 told me her late husband refused to let her work outside the home, even before they had kids. They always lived paycheck to paycheck. I understood it, but my soon to be ex-wife refused to work outside the home unless she had to. She only just acquired enough credits to draw disability, but then, the only reason for that is because she kicked me out because she was communicating with me and I communicated back.

Loudly.

Men are hardwired to try and focus on the task at hand, just as we did when we were the hunters of great beasts. We don't multitask well. My brain is a bit different because I was forced to write right handed. Doesn't sound like much, but I use both sides of my brain in problem resolution. Even then, I'm sometimes stuck explaining it to others.

I communicate best writing. Speaking, I'm a bigger joker than I am on here. I'm also a lot deeper when I get serious.

Possible. But first you have to get his attention.

That part is difficult. So is it true that when a man withdraws you're really supposed to leave them alone until they come back? Why is it when this happens and a woman tries to reach out that they withdraw even more from them?

It's the way we're raised. Boys don't cry or show a lot of emotions. Almost Spocklike.

No, when a guy is in that state of mind, the best you can do is tell him you love him and that dinner, or sex, will be ready in half an hour. He's trying to tame the beast within, and it's the hardest battle he has. Men never develop the support system women do.

He and I were close but things have been strained the last 2 years. I had several bipolar episodes, we fought constantly, then I got better this year. I'm trying to repair things, but the more I try, the more he pulls away. He says he needs time but it's been several months and nothing's changed. Would it be better to back off completely and let him come to me? I don't want to lose him, but my efforts aren't working.

Male imgflippers, if you were in this situation, what would you recommend the woman do if they want things to work out?

Under these circumstances, ID be the last person to ask. My 38th wedding aniversary was lady December, but the final hearing for our divorce is next month. No, it wasn't because I wouldn't communicate, but because I did in the same manner as my soon to be ex.

One important thing: how strong is this relationship? Married? Kids?

Just remember: if you break it off, it will never return to what it had been. One reason why it did not bother me to leave when I got the boot.

Sorry about your divorce, that's got to be hard. It was strong and it still has the potential to be again. Not married and no kids, but he's stuck with me the last 4 years, even though the last 2 have been awful, and he hasn't said he wants it to end yet. He's bad at communicating and emotions and I do too much of both. He wasn't always bad at it, he became that way the worse things got. So he won't tell me what exactly i'm supposed to do to fix things. All i've ever heard is that when men withdraw, you let them, cause if you try to get close they'll withdraw more. I do not get him at all sometimes.

thats all bunk males are not all so uniform as that. dude was probably not hugged much as a child compared to sisters.

i get the other two, but what's the "family tree"?

Number of parents listed on the birth certificate.

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