In my case, I found a woman that was strong where I was weak and weak where I was strong. I was strong with planning the big picture, setting and maintaining the goals. She was strong with the little things. The day to day stuff. She worked to make the little things happen to achieve the goals and when she became so focused on the little things that she strayed off the path towards the goals, I would guide her back on course. Marriage is hard work.from both people. I had an aunt and uncle that were my models for a good marriage. I visited them as often as possible and got to go to work with him some days and stayed with her other days. Even on the job, he thought of her well being, her wants and needs first. At home, she put his wants and needs first.
It's the last point you made that they need the children for. It's part indoctrination and a big part optics. If a child makes a bad decision, which they are apt to do, which brings them afoul of law enforcement, that child or children could be detained, arrested, or injured. We've seen terrorists and terroristic regimes place civilians, especially women and children in harms way many times. It's not truth they want, it's optics. Anything negative at all and the spin doctors go to work weaving their lies into the narrative.
