That is what I am trying, I get so frustrated, When people know that things are a certain way and cover it up or deny it because of some code or misguided belief. Do you know that the way people deny facts & events or struggle for an alternate explanation than what is in front of their face is a psychological defense? Our brain consciously or subconsciously alters our memory to what we tell ourselves had to have really happened, so not only are we fighting stereotypes, Lies even written in history book lies, hurtful things that have always been done or were funny as and must be OK or everyone wouldn't have cheered and laughed, plus ugly feelings passed down the generations but we also have to fight with our own brains to remember things accurately or else it will start altering your perception to match the direction of your thoughts when you worry and stress over it which brings justification and victim blaming. Grandma was a good loving hardworking women and she says you can't trust those people she wouldn't say that if it wasn't true. They must be deserving of that. So a person witnessing an injustice can and will eventually deny what they saw or justify it to relieve the uneasy feelings they are having about anything that might make them think maybe grandma was a good woman but this was wrong, so when I parrot her I am wrong too, and my friends. I have to tell My friends that this is wrong. No doesn't happen.