It is a false equivalent to state that passing on the message that the creator of the universe sets the ultimate standards: don't kill, don't steal, etc, hate others. In fact, I do not tell anyone to not do whatever they want, short of hurting others. I, and other Christians, point out that Creator and judge of the universe has given each of us the right to choose to follow what He says.. or not. There are predictable outcomes to either choice and we just point out what He tells us in an effort to keep others from experiencing decidedly negative futures. I do not hate others, regardless of their actions. If I, knowing what God tells us about His standards, don't pass these standards on to others, then I would be guilty of hating, or worse, not caring about a harm awaiting an individual at the end of this life.