Yeah, my lack of confidence is tied to being misgendered and insulted and thus being nervous. That is the main thing when it comes to me. Sometimes events can leave a scar for a while.
Sometimes, yeah/ Other times, I kinda like wearing something a bit more upscale, that way I can find more HVMs. Usually though, I will dress kinda casual. So I see what you mean.
PRO DATING TIP: NEVER GET READY 100% FOR YOUR FIRST DATE, MAKEUP IS EXPENSIVE AS HECK, AND MOST GUYS WILL FLAKE ON YOU BEFORE YOU SHOW UP ANYWAY. COME TO YOUR FIRST DATE A WEE BIT DISHEVELED, TO SEE IF HE WILL LOVE YOU FOR YOU. IF THEY WILL REJECT YOU FOR NOT LOOKING YOUR A-GAME ON YOUR FIRST DATE, THEN DUMP THEIR ASSES.