Kudos & Profound Respect For This Loving Couple

A frightening contrast to today where it's impossible for a lot of people to get a relationship and half the population can't even approach someone.

You are right, SalvagedFox. It is a jungle out there. Good luck hunting!

If I could give you advice, I would recommend you go to a free dating site called "Plenty of Fish". I posted our daughter's picture and described what she was looking for and found the best son-in-law ever for her. They have been happily married for over 15 years.

You can get to know a lot about a person through emails (or texts later on). Take it slow and if you think there is a connection, you can pursue it and meet. I wish you luck and keep your standards high and you just might find your missing link. 🤞

I wish your advice was that easy, but I've tried online dating already. For women it's easy to find people who want you, but as a guy, I have yet to find a single girl who wanted me.

By modern standards, I'm visually unattractive to most if not all women out there (I've literally gotten ONE compliment on my looks in my entire life by someone in my age group, but she wasn't interested in me). So when they go on and the first thing that will determine if they click on me is my non-supermodel face... well... let's just say the only ones who wanted to talk would give me links to their OnlyFans.

On top of that, I don't make as much as many find suitable for a reliable long-term relationship. Literally the one girl I matched the most with only cared about my job and didn't even want me as a friend. I even have family members who have been abused and divorced because of money. Even worse, my job just let me go, so I can't even afford the premium feature on POF, which is required for having any decent chance of showing up for someone.

I'm not trying to sound ignorant. It's just not easy today as it was 15 years ago. I have no way to impress and even with low standards I'm still alone at 28. Plus with so many desparate guys now, of which I share interests with millions of them, they can all impress before I can.

The girl who was interested in you because of your job is not a girl worthy of you, SF. You need to find a nice girl who appreciates you for YOU. I find smart men to be very attractive. I find committed men to be very attractive. Money doesn't make one happy...a dependable/loving spouse does make one happy. You need to find a girl who shares your values and your goals. Don't give up...she is out there, you just have to find her.

Be an optimist, it will work well for you. Be happy as people are drawn to you as you give off good vibes. Be confident as women like that but be confident because you know you are a good person and deserve a good woman to appreciate you and love you for who you are and not for how much money you make. Women can be b*tches and you don't want to get tied down to one. Look for a woman who loves animals and babies and not money.

Not everybody is handsome but let me tell you something, handsome is in the eye of the beholder. I still find my husband to be handsome after multiple decades of marriage. If you have that 'spark' as I call it, you will last forever. We looked like Barbie and Ken when we met; we honestly don't any more but we do to each other. And that is what matters. Looks are not forever but character, respect and integrity (and that spark) will keep you in love.

It is fun to laugh and a sense of humor is important. A good write-up on POF is important. You don't have to have the deluxe listing there to find the right person. The one I put our daughter on was just a regular listing. Girls are looking for nice guys so don't give up. Don't underestimate yourself...I see a lot in you and you just need to convey this across to some nice girl who is looking for someone just like you. You are a great age as you are old enough to know what you want. Now, you just have to go out and get it.

I wish I could find someone like you then, because those types of women are either taken young or just nowhere to be found. My searching has continued to be fruitless, met with a combination of rejection, humiliation, disappointment and depression.

It's hard to be optimistic nowadays when you're always competing against everyone else for the same thing, or same person, but the rules have changed and you have high expectations to meet which you could never achieve.

Not trying to toot my own horn, but the things you say are redeeming qualities, I have taken great pride in maintaining throughout my life, and the things that you say don't matter, I don't have anyway. Sadly, I've never been given a chance to bring that across to a single girl. Ever. Things aren't like they used to be. For women, it's easy, but for men, I'm among the crowd of lonely people who'll never have a pure and faithful lifelong friend to be together with. I know many like me.

Every day I want to give up, but have that little bit of a dream left that it's possible, even though I see otherwise.

Please do not give up, SalvagedFox. You have more than you realize to offer a woman. You seem like a stable guy interested in commitment and you have VALUES! Don't underestimate yourself. Females are just as worried as you that they won't find their right partner in life. It actually is worse for women as they will be considered to be an old maid if they don't get married by say, forty. Men don't have to deal w/ that stigma as much.

Ok, you need to get a good write-up for POF or any other dating site you want to try. I can help you. We will concentrate on your good qualities that many good women are looking for. You can PM me and we can put on paper what you are all about and catch the eye of a female in search of 'you'.

We need to go into this with a good positive mental attitude. I have always believed that there is someone for everyone. We just have to make your paths cross and see if there is a good fit.