This is why we don't compliment boys as much, they always take it the wrong way.

Happens the other way around, too. I've become afraid to pay compliments anymore because I don't want to be seen as a creeper. A female coworker twice my age filed a complaint that got me kicked from my job and I was questioned about my intentions with her by HR because I invited my whole crew for a drink.

We've become a society obsessed with intimacy.

Sad but true . . . it seems kindness is so rare that when it does happen, it's taken as a symbol of love. People just genuinely can't think of any other reason to be nice sometimes.

Yeah. Even worse, it's getting harder to make friends nowadays, especially as adults. Any time someone asks to meet up or hang out, it can easily be taken as something sexual.

Simultaneously, with more people lonely today than any other point in history, any sort of kindness is seen as their break and they become more willing to hop on any chance they can get too hook up with someone, especially if they otherwise couldn't impress people with high standards, especially women.

Humans are social creatures, and when you deprive them, they get desperate, even if they have no ill-intentions. Place them in a society places importance on intimacy (and beyond that), then that's what they'll learn.

One of the things which stress me the most in a social interaction is "underlined meaning". When I say something or they say something, I afraid that I or they misunderstood the real meaning of the message.

Why ? Because I'm literal. Except the jokes I made when the underlined message is important for the punchline and pretty obvious, I'll avoid any phrasing which could be misunderstood.
And if someone is trying to pas a message under the table, 90% of the time I'll totally be oblivious to it, which let both of us in an awkward position.

And my biggest problem is FLIRTING. Because I'm aroace, I obliviously don't want to flirt, but the other person can't know.
So, it's why I mostly avoid interacting with girls, not to be misogynistic, but because I suck at communicating and I don't want any trouble. Add to that that they're generally are more sensible to underlying message, as far as I know at least.

as a boy we dont all take it the wrong way for some of us we only think that because of how you compliment so its more of a tone problem not our problem

Ok, sorry for the misunderstanding. Thanks for pointing it out to me.

sadly true

And there's my random aroace a*s who's totally blind to any kind of flirting, but I won't complain about it honestly.