Imagine straight people being offended on behalf of gay people, some of these 'straight lgbt allies' are married and have children, living a traditional nuclear family life. Many gays constantly seek approval from society but not all of them, Canadian YouTuber J.J. Mccullough who is himself a gay man describes being gay as 'annoying' for him because of how society treats him: https://youtu.be/tNO93XRikXw