I dunno if these "hundreds of sources" that you just mentioned are credible ones (or are riddled with bias as many other Human works are, if not all of them, due to being made by Humans), but then again, it does say in the Bible that God is a loving, forgiving, and merciful God. It is also said that God commands you to "love both God and neighbor as you would yourself" - "neighbor" is gender-neutral (male, female, or androgynous can apply here). It is also said that one should respect others and their beliefs as you would your own (in the end, it is between them and God). And what about the concept of free will and how we Catholics love our moral agency and the ability to choose?