If we’re all racist and awful, why does it matter if we have preferences that exclude POCs?

.... Yeah, I don't think it's your height that's putting these women off, to be frank with you.

What is it then?

Well, my answer to that hasn't changed since the last time we had this conversation. You've told me a few times now that the women who find you relatable aren't old enough for you to date, which is basically an admission that you're not willing to deal with that the issue is with your own maturity level.

I'm extremely young-looking for my age. This was partially due to growth issues caused by Crohn's disease, which wasn't discovered until the effects it had on my growth were irreversible.

Guessing how old I am is effectively an initiation game for all new employees at my job. Not a single person has ever gotten my age correct. Everyone usually guesses that I'm 14 - 17.

I never mentioned how old you are. I very specifically was addressing the maturity of your personality. That's a very different thing.

Look, it's up to you if you want to listen to me or not - but don't you ever feel like blaming your height isn't going anywhere?

How do you know what my personality is like? I'm sure you're intelligent enough to realize the way someone presents/interacts with people online can be very different from the way they act IRL. The things I discuss on this site are not what I converse with people about in my daily life.

And I don't really care what you have to say. Unless you're also a straight guy of my height or shorter, I don't think you have the room to weigh in on my lived experiences.

You told me yourself. These are all things that you're saying about yourself without realising that's what they mean.

What things?

I already gave you a response to that comment. I'm saying I believe that the reason I attract teenage girls has to do with my very neotenous appearance & small build more so than my maturity level.

And your views on race mixing. And trans exclusion. Anyway, best of luck.

Again, HOW TF DO YOU KNOW WHAT I’M LIKE IRL? I’m 110 lbs and I’ve never even been in a physical fight ever. So I don’t know how I’m coming off as “uNsaFE”.

You’re also assuming all trans people will be as woke as you. I came across a transgender girl not long ago on TikTok who has a Trump flag above her bed. I don’t even own any Trump stuff.

"And your views on race mixing. And trans exclusion."
I never discuss those things with anyone IRL.

And you do realize I would love to have a cute transgender gf? I believe in the HSTS/autogynephile distinction as posited by Ray Blanchard.

If you want to date someone in the trans community then you DEFINITELY need to work on coming across as a safer person to be around!!!!

What does it matter, although since when did guys have preferences like that (or any, for that matter)? I sure ain't seen it in my life, and that includes with racists. Heck, racists have an unusually high tendency to um, 'cross that line,' and not only with women.

It's almost like they're trying to fool their loser peers that they're racist, when it's just a cover for what they really desire, and what they despise most about themselves.

I'm not trying to make any argument about the number of white men who would or wouldn't date someone outside their race. I'm pointing out the double standard that women's preferences are always valid, but men's preferences always seem to be up for dispute.

For that matter, I have heard tons of black men say that they prefer lightskin, or white women, so even POCs have skin color preferences as well.

No, you're not. You're making an argument about dating solely their own race, as if that's an issue to other people.

So men not liking someone for their weight isn't valid? Because a heck ton of my exes say otherwise. I get flack here from some for posting memes featuring women who are simly voluptuous, barely treading towards rubenesque.
Pimply? Too tall? Too too short? Flat chested? Flat butt? Too assertive? Too old? Ugly?
You're saying that every single woman who liked you in your life (of legit age), you dated? Really?

That you're putting this on women for rejecting you, or are making such issue of people's races, is rather telling. Maybe if you stopped looking at people as objects to be labeled and instead as human beings, they might start looking the same way at you?