I hear you. Even though I am a combat vet myself, I have been talking people out of the military for a few years now. I just explain that we are not the world's police but the enforcement arm of the left. The US pushes wokeness on the planet. I see real problems going forward as our new woke military will never be able to replace warriors with woke activists. The numbers are just not there and so the military will downsize itself. My buddies are all just running their time out, they tell me there is no real training just classes on how to be "tolerant". There is no pride in service anymore.
As far as the black racism goes, I live in the south, last time we had friends over I challenged them on race, I asked if anyone there had ever met an actual white supremist. Only one, and that one later married a black woman, had children, his family accepted her but her's wanted no part of him, reformed or not.
I have seen stories of attacks on Asians, really not sure why that is happening, we have scores of illegals and blacks but none of the problems that I see in other places. Out here, we help each other, share stock, equipment, whatever is needed. Everyone knows a guy that does whatever you need done at the time. We may all have a story of some kids that called us names or chased us as kids, threw rocks but as adults at least here, racism is not a thing. I am sure the left would be horrified to learn that, but it is still the truth. We interact freely, we do not ask anyone that works hard and shows up on time where they were born or how they arrived, mixed couples are common enough that no one notices. I wouldn't live anywhere else.