Some people say that theyre actually not bad. But if someone is being forced into it, is it really good?

Considering Kate and I are in an arranged marriage, I'd say things are going well :)

But seriously, I really dont know...I've attended a wedding where the marriage was arranged and it was weird to me, but they are still happily married today and it seems to have worked. I believe in courtship, I think that makes for better unions than arranged relationships...provided it is done right and the couple doesn't just marry because it feels good right then. So many divorces these days, and its sad... just look at Kate and Syd, and now I'm in the mix ;)

Thats true. The divorce rate for regular marriges is around 5%, while the divorce rate for arranged ones is 1%. Theyre also a lot more common than we think, because 50% of all marriges are arranged.

Though some psychology experts are saying that the reason they might be so successful is because lf the added pressures from family/society, and becuase of the fact that a divorce in some cases means being disowned by your own family.

In some countries, women are trying to murder their fianceès because they want to get out of it, and theyve been begging not to be married off, but they werent listened too, so they felt murder was the best option to get out of it....

Oh, and if its okai to ask dad, what are your opinions on arranged marriges when the people are being married when theyre teenagers? Around 16-18?

In what country is the divorce rate 5%?

Ah, sorry, I forgot the 0. I meant to say 50%. And the country is America. Sorry about that....

Okay, now that sounds more like it, unfortunately.

Yeah haha....it was late and I was on morphine.... sorry about that, haha...

though, the divorice rate for arranged marriges in India is 1%. Just a smol fact.

16-18? I think with today's standards it's too young. Not enough adult experience. Sure, people got married at 13 and 14 years old back 200 years ago, but the mature life they experienced then is way more intense than kids today would experience at that age. Childhood is prolonged now compared to what it was. Lifespan back then was also much shorter, so there were fewer years to make use of. I think marriage that early these days is too much.

Ah, thank you. Im asking that because of something that happened on a diffrent site... thanks for answering.

Glad to help/share!

I don’t want to be forced to marry someone I don’t know.

Thats normal... though it is treated like it isint. Youre opinion dosnt matter in an arranged marriage, as sad as it is.

pppffffttttt

'-' You might wanna see what I just messaged ya on Quotev.

:) go ahead and read what I sent back!

I saw

I think it's horrible,and to quote "she" by green day, in its entirety:

She
She screams in silence
A sullen riot penetrating through her mind
Waiting for a sign to smash the silence with the brick of self control

Are you locked up in a world that's been planned out for you?
Are you feeling like a social tool without a use?
Scream at me until my ears bleed
I'm taking heed just for you

She
She's figured out
All her doubts were someone else's point of view
Waking up this time to smash the silence with the brick of self control

Are you locked up in a world that's been planned out for you?
Are you feeling like a social tool without a use?
Scream at me until my ears bleed
I'm taking heed just for you

Are you locked up in a world that's been planned out for you?
Are you feeling like a social tool without a use?
Scream at me until my ears bleed
I'm taking heed just for you

Depends on if they love each other or not

Well, for arguments sake, lets say that they havent met each other, know nothing about each other, and met the day of their wedding day.

Also, a bit of a question for deeper analisis of the question above, but what if the people being married are 16-18 years old?

Okay, now I’m not so sure if I support it

Yeah, me either.

IMO, Most Arranged marriages will never work out. Most unarranged marriages don’t work, so there's A less of a chance that two people who barely know each other who are getting forced to marry each other will have a working marriage. I’m an expert at this stuff because most of my family members are divorced....

Ah.... Im sorry to hear that.... but
Arranged marrages are actually more succsessful than regular ones. Normal ones have a divorce rate of 5%, whereas arranged ones have a divorce rate of 1%.

Love is a choice. You cannot have someone make it for you. If it’s forced, that’s not love.

I agree with you.

The reason that these marriges are still going on is for a lot of reaseons, but mostly tradition. But... arranged marriges actually have really low divorce rates, (1%) while normal ones have a divorce rate of 5%. Wether or not its love, or just poeple somehow living together, is a diffrent issue and question, and its one I dont have an answer too. But some poeple in arranged marriges say its not to bad, and its normal, and they live with their spouse like anyone else would. With a few bumps here and there, but overall very good.

I guess they must have a lot of faith in their parents to make the right decision for them. But it’s just that- they’re letting them make one of the most important decisions of their life for them. No one really knows who’s right for them but themselves. I think it’s oppression for parents to do that to their children. They’re not giving them the freedom they deserve. Of course, I grew up in America, so of course I have a different point of view. I’ve never heard anyone defend arraigned marriage in a way that sounds reasonable to me, though...

Yeah, I understand you. I grew up in America too, (or, well, I guess it was TECHNICLY Mexico, but thats not important-) and, yeah, they are kinda cutting their kids off from making a huge/the hugest choice in their life. Im not trying to defend this, BTW, Im against it too.

Can I ask of you opinion on arranged marriges for when the people getting married are 16-18 years old? Like...does the marrige get worse, in your opinion?

Sure. I think that 16-18 yrs. old is too young. They’re still kids, really. (Though they may feel mature). Their brains aren’t even fully developed yet. Mid-twenties for guys, I believe. You can’t even drink legally till you’re 21, so, i think that should be the minimum age. And even then, I believe you should get to know each other for at least two years first. That whole first year you’re really just meeting their “representative”. You can put on a good show for about a year, but after that, you get to know the real person. You have to see them in every season. I think that’s the reason there is so much divorce, they don’t do that. My wife and I were friends three years before we started dating. Then married a year later. Been happily married 12 years now! 😊

As far as low divorce rate in arraigned marriage, I think they just grow comfortable with each other, and if there’s no abuse, just go with it. I also think not wanting to offend the oppressive parents have something to do with it.

Aw, congratulations!
And, yeah, Ive heard of that. I know some poeple who went to highschool together, but they didnt date until they were already adults. I think that helped them a lot.

I agree. It helps to listen to people with wisdom in that area...😉