bullying

The reason why I was bullied was because of my skin color, i'm an African american but my skin is darker than the usual

I'm sorry you had to experience bullying. I've experienced racism from kids because of my skin color too. You have to remember something about bullies. They put others down because they have no confidence that they themselves are valuable and so they try to get attention the wrong way. They think by putting others down they build themselves up but it dies just the opposite, it shows just how weak and desperate they really are. Talk to a trusted adult, ignore the bullies or just outwit them with brainpower. Don't take anything they say personally because no one can say anything to diminish your worth as a person.

Thanks

But do you know the worst part,most of them were African american?!?

Wat? That's pathetic on their part...if that's the case. Dont give in to their crap, bullies are pathetic in general.

Sadly, this is very much a thing. It's often referred to as colorism.

And yes, it is actually stupider than the name itself. Black people can cry that white people hate the color of their skin, yet criticize (excluding tongue-in-cheek jokes) others for being "too dark," or "too light." Being "too light" can mean you're "white passing," even if your skin tone doesn't even resemble that of anybody remotely Caucasian. Being "too dark," on the other hand can also be a problem, if there are people -- including blacks -- who want to dismiss you as non-human due to your dark skin tone.

That is absolutely ridiculous...I'm having trouble processing that right now. Ever heard the song "Bleed the same"? More people should listen to it and take it to heart.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HVKuA1s5I3o

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thanks

This is what I hate about school kids. They bully you because they know you're weaker and they seize the opportunity

I know, that's why I really don't have friends outside of school

Not really bullied, but very much insulted. In middle school, they used to tell me to, "Go back to f**king Russia" a lot. I mean, it hurt, but not too much. Right now I'm in highschool, and things have been going differently, so far...

I'm sorry you had to go through that

Thank you. People are just trash sometimes

No wonder a lot of people are antisocial

Also, right now this girl just screams at me for no reason, but I somehow am able to ignore her.

I don't know for sure, but I think she likes you

She only yells at you ?

I don't think so. She's like, "Nobody cares!" when I talk to someone. But, maybe you're right

Do you sit next to her in any classes ? If so, I want you to try something

Haha, exactly!

Иди нахуи also works, or a much more suitable Serbian phrase, јебем ти жено мајку

Oh, goodness, I know, haha!

When I was in Middle school they used to always say how my skin "looked like coca-cola", one of the people I thought was my friend said that if i wore dark clothes, everybody would think I was naked. A girl that I liked said that if I was in a dark room, the only people would see me was my yellow teeth. Even one of my closet friends said that i'm the reason why my dad left my family. Even now it makes me so angry, and sad that I barely had any friends in middle school, and if i did nobody would do nor say anything to stand up to me.

I am so sorry for you. Question, you are in the US, right? I just don't want to assume

yeah

This just proves that this "Land of the Free" isn't very kind to its immigrants, even though this country was built on immigrants. F**king hell...

I thank God fro my loving family because they are the only reason why could got through that year

Yeah, America isint the best country. Im sorry you went through all that too. *sighs*, But, the immagrants can bite right back if they think your white, I can say that for sure. Its weird. You guys were bullied for not being white, and for me it was the exact opposite. Whats funny though is that I just happened to lose the genetic lottery, other than that, I was the exact same as them. Nationality and all. I even know more spanish than most of the people who picked on me. Damn.... I hate my skin, myself and everything.I hate it all. I hate everything about me.

Don't hate yourself or anything about yourself. Sure, I may sound a bit like a hypocrite, but don't hate yourself. People have no right to make you feel horrible because of the way you were born. If you think you're awesome, you're awesome. Don't let people's opinion shape your thoughts on who you are. You are you, and you should love that

Ha... thanks man. That helped a bit. I guess I can say the same things about you too. Ignore those people who say things like 'go back to Russia' I mean, thats dumb. I can tell you right now that I enjoy getti.g notifications about our RPs and stuff, and your a good person.

It's OK, he left for another reason

I was the kinda guy who always stood up to bullies, even defending my friends at times. Got punished by the school and their retarded, pacifist justice system on more than a few occasions for that.

Wish I had you in my school

I tried to stand up to them but they were to many

If you're in a "one vs many" type of fights, the best start is to grab one guy and push him on the others, so they fall down. That way, it's easier to attack whoever is still on their feet.
Head is overrated. Target the torso, especially the right rib. That's where the liver is located. Hit that spot hard enough and you'll paralyze them (as the liver gets pushed and disrupts the other inner organs).
A good elbow hit to the stomach is also good to, as it is said in my native language, knock their air out and have them need a few moments before catching their breath.
If one of your opponents is lower than you, a knee to the jaw is an excellent tactic. It's possible to for them to bite their own tongue that way, thus being unable to fight.
And forget the 'honourable battle' bullshit. They don't treat you with honor, neither should you them. Use your nails and teeth as much as needed, and never forget where a man is most vulnerable.

Of course, this is all for when you really get in trouble and have no way out. Before that, it's a good idea to find someone who hates your bullies as well. You don't have to be friends, but you have a mutual interest, and that is enough.

Thanks for the fighting advice but i mean "standing up" to them when they were insulting me

I can fight but i'm just afraid of what i'll do to people

Stare them straight in the eye, never look away.
Also, agree with them. "Yeah, I am, and? What are, you, jealous?" Like what IS so wrong with your skin tone?
Plus it throws them off, because people expect ping pong.
"You're a snowflake"
"Oh yeah, well you're triggered"
Woopdee dee
"Snowflake? Called that right, an nice mushy one. Do you like snowflakes, because I can be a real real nice snowflake, make your snowflake dreams come true..."

I got flack (insults) when we moved to an Italian neighborhood when I was 8 which was not ideal for a half Puerto Rican in the 1970s. Funny thing was, to them, I LOOKED Italian, so they'd go from "Ey, Paisan" to "Go home, Spic" in a conversation, which shows how stupid racists are about their hatred.

I wasn't allowed to defend myself by my parents - they blamed me for it. In retrospect, that's what impacted me the most. The words from classmates are just words, they toughen you up. As the years went on, we all ended up friends anyways.

Anyways, not being allowed to defend myself, I ended up doing it for others when possible. Most had not seen my father since he was at work, so if they were trash talking other religions, races, countries, I would say, "Yo, father is Jewish" ... "Yo, my father is Black" .... it was funny seeing people chewing their tongues off trying to backpedal. Anyways, that's when I was a teen.

Then some folks in the country my father was born did some crap and I got flack for that. This was in HS, and like you, what got me was the worst of it came from this dude that was Black and another that was a PR. People who were my pals got all dicky. So that's when I started agreeing with them. Got right up their face and said, "Yeah, so what of it? Don't like it, do something, I'm right here, so do it anytime, like it now" ... "Go ahead, send me back" yadda yadda.
I guess it helps that my face tends to look pissed off and mean to start with, but whatever, people started backing off.

In HS I had one dude that stood by my side. Other than that, no one. My family said it was my fault, our relatives lived far, no one of my ethnicity to back me in the neighborhood.
Because my folks blamed me, I don't really get insulted when it's hurled at me, but it can piss me off royally when I see others catching it. That's when my tone changes from clowning around to more confrontational in defense of others.

Not saying my approach is for everyone. Bottom line, words are just words, and those people do not matter

Thanks, i really appreciate it

Sorry you go through that

Oh, i'm sorry you had to go through that

It stupid how people make fun of other people over something they can't control

My parents want me to be more social, but most of the people my age are mostly idiots, and I don't want to be influenced by them

That's a good mentality. Never fit into the mold if the mold is moldy (pun not intended).

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" - Jiddu Krishnamurti

"The cost of sanity in this society is a certain level of alenation" - Terence McKenna

I hope you're doing well