Thoughts on same sex couples adopting?

I think two men or two women can be just as capable as raising a child as a man and woman. My father raised me and my brothers on his own for most of our lives and I have him to credit for everything good in my life. Parenting is a responsibility that not everyone is capable of stepping up to. It takes the commitment of an individual or couple who are willing to put there child's needs above all else and offer them a loving home. I don't think being a same sex couple makes you any less equipped to offer this.

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Its not really 'a child needs a mother and a father' its more 'a child needs a mother figure and a father figure',or well, its that a child needs two guardians,one to be less strict and understanding, and one tough and a little strict to show the world wasn't made specifically for them.If they are able to fulfill these qualities, then they are good enough to be parents.

This is a tough one that I do not know the final answer to so anyone feel free to finish my paragraph if you know.

I know that the majority of LGBT couples who adopt are usually lesbian couples. No matter the couples' makeup, they automatically alienate the child from at least one biological parent if not two. Also, the fact that the father is guaranteed to be one of the missing element in the lesbian scenario is incredibly detrimental to the child's health. Are there kids that make it out fine? Sure. But statistically, it is more of the exception, not the rule. So my gut feeling would be to say no.

Then I remember the story of a person going to an orphanage (in India, I believe) to try to adopt and all the infants were incredibly quiet. They shared how impressed they were that the staff were able to keep all the kids so well behaved. The staff soon corrected them through the translator: "they are quiet because they have already learned that nobody will come for them." This made me beyond sad and depressed for a while. I seriously pondered if there was someway to adopt all those infants.

Which leaves me to my final dilemma. Which is actually worse? The child who never knew parental love at all, or the child that will learn parental love without an important component? We have statistics of fatherless and motherless homes, but not really, never parents homes. Well, at least I never seen them myself. Till I learn this, I am going to have to say a soft no.

I've had a lot of exposure to the LGBT community through adopting as there are a lot of them that do adopt for obvious reasons. They demonstrate the same outpouring of love that we have, and are very committed to their children, and I do think many of them make good parents. However, I believe in the biblical definition of marriage between a man and woman, and I think that God designed us that way because that combination is best and promotes healthier children. So, while I don't support the idea of it and don't think it is best for the children, I do think they can be good parents. It will just be another obstacle for the child to overcome in adolescence when they are already trying to sort out their being adopted, they will also be trying to figure out why they have 2 daddies or 2 mommas. It's a recipe for increased chances of mental illness. And by that I mean I don't think the kids necessarily grow up and go crazy or are maladjusted to society, I mean that it could even be dealing with depression and anxiety regularly.

I agree that I'm thinking more about the long term effects on the child. I've no doubt they're are kind gays snd lesbians. But I think they have enough of their own issues to work through with having unnatural desires that I don't see how adding a child to the mix is helping anyone. Men and women are made to be together for a reason not just because physically they are compatable but even psychologically they are wired to raise a child together as a mother and a father. I think the accounts of children raised by same sex couples speaks volumes of the long term effects. Not that there are no bad heterosexual couples adopting that could have a negative impact on a child. I think it's something that should be looked at long term.

I agree