What cannot be is fake ppl so out of touch with their emotions that their inner Tin man doesn't have a heart. What CAN be is whatever true to self real solipsism, in touch with yourself, emotion you feel in the moment. If you're sad cry. If you're scared, say I'm scared. If you're worried, say I'm worried. Bottling it up, self denying, and being FAKE is self hating. You don't get to live your own life that way. The real you is locked in your shell like a criminal in prison for the crime of being human or the fear of being found out, revealed as the emotional being we all are.. as if, it's not known that man is flawed.. and for vanity and other such silly trivial reasons. Being True to Self is self love. Wii get to be. Ugly Ego does not. Ppl that can be sensitive and vulnerable out loud are the strong ones.. and the leaders. Usually women lead in good character example being in touch with emotion.. but some men are strong enough to be sensitive as well. When you do this.. being true to self, you get to live an authentic life, you get to be you, you get to cry and laugh from the core of your being.. no fakeness to it, real laughs which you feel all the way to the core. The inner child needs to laugh this way w/o it being a sort of fake, nervous facade of a laugh as an act detached from the real you.