Angry Toddler

Weak dude, weak

Talk abut rude too!

Last time I tell her my ideas!

Have you asked her about it?

Well it was in a chat group that she informed me the event was held in May and I'm like wait what? How come I never heard about it? And other people in the chat were saying the same. But she never said anything after that.

Geesh... See, that's the kind of thing I have to bite my tongue on. Because if I say what I think to the person they would never forgive my words. People do that kind of thing knowing full well that they are walking all over someone. I am sorry she did that to you. She should apologize.

Yea, I wanted to say more but didn't want to cause a scene. But I'm learning more not to trust her. It's not the first time she's let me down. It's just a bummer. We used to be closer but things have changed for some reason. Not sure why. That's what hurts more.

I had a "friend" like that. It took me years to realize she was not my friend, and I was only someone whom she could use in varying ways. She walked all over me and I could never see it. I do not speak to her to this day. I saw her at a gas station years ago and she was acting excited waving at me and all that. I just waved and kept walking.

Well I can't really cut her off because our kids love playing together. She's otherwise pleasant but I'm sure not going to count on her other than an occasional get together for the kids. She's still a friend. I don't really trust anyone though so I treat all my friends the same. Never had what you would call a best friend.

I understand about the kids. I had a person or two like that before. I never had best friends either, except for one. She was truly genuine and caring for others. She was that one who would honestly never hurt another and always did things to help others. I moved out of state, and life in general ended in us drifting apart. But aside from her I can't say I trust people and I know that when I hear from someone they just want a favor. No expectations and no disappointments.

Yep, no expectations and no disappointment has become my motto after being hurt too much growing up from people not keeping their word. One thing I've promised as a parent is to ALWAYS keep my promise to my kids even if it's something silly like you can have a lollipop if you're good at the doctor. I will do whatever it takes to get that lollipop. I don't promise what I can't fulfill. I guess being broken up from my family at a young age scared me emotionally so I never even trusted my parents growing up and it's the same for friends. But I want my kids to trust me and learn to be responsible adults who keep their word.

I do the same with my kids. If there is ever a reason that something I promised cannot be fulfilled due to some unexpected problem, they respond well if I talk to them and explain it and let them know they will still get what was promised it just may be later when they get it. And then of course I follow through. I used to hate being promised things and then being left high and dry later. That's no way to treat people.

Yea, it was always adults who let me down growing up. Like my brother had autism so he was always going to therapy and doctors and I was forever alone in a waiting room. One time his therapist said, hey next time I think you can come back and we can talk together. I was so excited because finally an adult who wanted to hear what I had to say. We'll I never did get to talk to her, I suppose she forgot but to this day I'm still disappointed. Guess I should let it go since it's been like 25 years. lol.

Need your advice Nixie, how would you handle this? imgflip.com/i/37aein

That is a crazy person! Okay... I guess I would advise avoidance. If they come to YOUR meme and comment in this insane way I would actually flag it and encourage others to flag as well. I do not use flagging flippantly. But this person has issues that have nothing to do with this site, or you or memes. I always say you never know what someone is dealing with in real life, and this looks like someone who has suffered something, somewhere and it has affected their ability to communicate. Their responses are very knee-jerk and hostile. The appear to feel attacked and are offended that you thought you knew what you were talking about. This is not a rational person. Just my theory. I could be dead wrong, but I think I have to be close.

Makes me want to comment to them just to see if I get a similar response.

Thanks, I thought as much. Thought I would be helpful but perhaps someone else could get through to her. I'll say a prayer to since they seem to be struggling with something. You're the best!

Checking their memes, they seem to be a young person. So TEENAGED ATTITUDE!

Yea, I figured someone really young and immature, sad the language they use and seen to be pretty angry about something.

I think some of the younger folks find it a fun novelty to use this type of talk. Seeings how they aren't usually allowed to speak that way. I think it makes them feel more grown-up and mature. I recall being that age and thinking certain things made me more adult and therefore worthy of admiration or respect. As if it was impressive that I would be smoking cigarettes, using foul language etc... Typical symptom of a teenager who needs to feel "big".

Okay, I just posted a carefully worded comment on her meme. Let's see how this shakes out. LOL

I love your response! I'm going to avoid for a little bit see how it goes.

Thanks! Waiting to see if she bites my head off! 😂

Popping my popcorn now! Lol

Well, looks like you're on her good side! You can tell who the teen mom is, lol I guess I'll stick to talking to toddlers.

It takes a bit of my brain power to do. I am hoping to smooth her out a little. Maybe she won't snarl at everyone. I still don't see why she was so bent out of shape at you.

Update on our young friend. We may have something in common after all :) imgflip.com/i/37aqpj?nerp=1565149382#com3488634

See? You never know! And I am sure that is where all the animosity is coming from. She is angry. Glad you got to talk with her! Maybe it will help her out a bit.

Anytime I come across a hostile and angry person, I assume they have some deeper battle that has nothing to do with me. And in her situation I assume no one ever really helped her learn how to express herself or cope with her emotions. All the anger and frustration eventually comes splattering out and lands on everyone else. You may be able to provide an outlet for her since you have similar backgrounds. I'm glad you took time to comment about your being adopted because that opened this new door.