I hear where you are coming from, but most of my life we have had rescue pets and they do love the crap out of you for saving them. The one we just got my daughter is so smart it's crazy. But yeah we had to deal with her being scared anytime you just raise your voice because some ass abused her in the year of her life before we got her. She has come out of her shell though and that does feel great to know she feels safe around us.