Your family sounds fantastic :-) and those who take on the honour of caring for elderly relatives are to be respected and admired. My daughter will most likely be helping me in my elder years, as she has a very strong sense of family .... but I will also take every step necessary to avoid needing care, as I also know all too well that, even though she may be married to a man whose family values are also very strong, they must be able to carry on with their ability to succeed financially. I do NOT want my daughter to go through what I went through .... the government in this province is currently one whose policies are, quite frankly, extremely abusive to those who need help. Just applying for the disability pension has so far taken me three long months, months filled with endless forms, having my privacy compromised, my dignity and integrity undermined and questioned, deprivation, and being held in the dark about the next necessary steps. I was forced to submit every aspect of both my personal and financial life to complete strangers over a thousand kilometres away, and have already had my online security compromised by careless handling in offices a day and a half away.
Caregiving is such an important role. If there were more supports for caregivers after the tenures end, it would be easy for me to support someone's decision to take on the tasks ... it is better for elderly people by far if they don't need to be in hospital, but do need assistance with daily activities. It is healthier for them and with the right supports in place for all concerned, it can also bring families closer IF it is handled properly and professionally. But in this province, that is one helluva big IF.
Courses for caregivers should be available. I am a well-schooled extended care aide whose skills include being able to assess care needs of a senior or a disabled person. For me, it made THE difference in being able carry out the clinical aspect of the caregiving, because too many are left to "wing it". For anyone who decides to take on this most honourable task, I urge taking the courses available, and for families to assist with the cost. If government grants are available, I urge any caregiver to apply for them.
And, lastly, I send a callout to any caregiver that I wish them all the best. It is a difficult road, but a most rewarding one. I know I did the right thing by my parents, hands down, and that's what keeps me going.