Where were the peaceful Muslims filling the streets with protests against the 9/11 attacks? Where were they after Oct7? If they were out they were overwhelmed by the numbers supporting the terrorism.
When a man murders his family he is immediately condemned by society at large. The same used to apply to women murderers. This case changed that among a certain group of women, to the point of honoring the killer and donating a million dollars to her defense. That's why we're concerned, not obsessed