Totally get it. I feel like my gender usually switches between neutral (maybe agender) and female (I'm AMAB), and I don't really care what bathroom. But I usually don't pick the female bathroom because I don't want to face problems. I may be mistaken for a girl sometimes, but I'm still too afraid to actually go to the women's bathroom. You know how important bathrooms are to transphobes, and I don't want to test my luck too much.