RE: "You should be the judge, not the judged!"?
Where did you first hear about God?
To be the Judge you must not let others influence you about what is or what is not the truth about a subject that is moot.
If there is a god who are you to know what that god wants, needs or does.
To a new born infant, an adult or parent is a god, the adult gives the infant everything or the infant will die, if there is no one to take it into their care of them. This is probably everyone's first notion of what a god is.
As an infant you knew nothing of the world until that knowledge was learned either by experience or by transfer of thought. So when we eliminate the transfer of thought, where did we get the notion there is a god?
That is the question we must answer for ourselves thus making us the judge.
When some one tells us about what they think is God, we must Judge for ourselves through our own experience if their notion of God is plausible! Thus making us the Judge!
When we accept the notion of god through transfer of thought without judgement, we become judged!
Are we worthy of being part of a society others want us to conform to?