and for the friend that found out against my will, this one was more recent, yesterday actually. so i was chilling on facetime with the friend that i told and she supports, ill call her blonde. so for some backstory, i had just went to camp, and my friend who is also homophobic who i’ll call jacket, asked about some colors on my bag, which were a pride thing. obviously, im not gonna tell her, and the colors were pretty obscure anyways, they weren’t just the rainbow colors or none. i just said i liked the color scheme. so, back to when im on the call with blonde, i get a text from jacket saying “i found out what those colors mean” sending me a screenshot of one of my avatars on roblox with a pride thing on it. she starts saying “why didn’t you tell me what it meant when i asked.” so i freak tf out collectively with blonde, because i’ve literally only told blonde. blonde is the only person that knows, and im not even that close with jacket. i just say “what do ya mean, i didn’t tell you what? “ i had honestly almost forgotten about her asking what was on my bag, so it wasn’t wrong for me to say that. she says “when i asked you what those colors meant” and i have to keep up the facade and shit, so i switched out the colors to be tv girl style, and said “i just like tv girl so i put them” in the most innocent way possible. she starts saying how the colors don’t match up, so i showed her the picture of the bag with colors changed cause i obviously don’t want her to know. she starts saying “it wasn’t like that.” “don’t gaslight me.” don’t get me wrong, i f**king get it, my last friend group i was in gaslight me a lot and i know how it feels, but this is very f**king different. she can’t just play the victim here when she basically f**king attacked me about trying to get me to tell her. did she expect me to be like “awww how’d ya find out, haha, what gave it away, oh you. 🤗🤗”. No, i never wanted her to f**king know. i’ve only known her for 3 weeks on and off, a year in between each week. she can’t be mad at me for not telling her what the colors on my bag meant, when i was never comfortable with her finding out in the first place, and she absolutely can not play the f**king victim of “my gaslighting”. Like i know i did try to “trick” her a bit but i think it’s for a pretty f**king good cause. a thing about her is that she’s always empathetic but only to herself and the most random ass people, and she stops being empathetic when something doesn’t go the way (2/3