I may be the source of the confusion. I'm aroace, I feel no attraction to anybody, but I'm what's called "cupioromantic" and "cupiosexual": I like to do the stuff, but I feel no attraction. I'm a lesbian bc I just can't imagine being in a long term relationship with a man and bodyhair absolutely disgusts me.
Oh, ok. Anyways, just so you know, asexuality is a spectrum, there is "sex repulsed" and "sex neutral" asexuals, and the same 4 aro people. They might be repulsed to one gender and neutral towards the other. cupio is like "sex/romance positive"