I believe I read about an aro or ace term for something very similar to this recently. I’ll try to find it. If I find it, I’ll get back to you. Also congrats on the gf. :)
Yeah, I know a lot of people that are like "I'm aroace but I still want something, you know?" or "I'm allo but I just feel like I force my attraction" and I'm like "sounds cupio tbh"