if you see this, I probably didn't add a title :3

She was dating multiple people at once without telling any of them she was dating more than one person. big yikes...

Sooo.... she was cheating and is trying to get out of it by saying "I'm poly guys don't discriminate'

basically yeah, I just found this out tbh 😬

oof

Bro, what???

ask someone else not me I'm still very stupid

I’m not saying I don’t believe you…

She asked if I’d date her, but she was already dating a few people at the time, so I just assumed she was poly…

She is poly but you can still cheat in polyamorous relationships by not informing potential partners that you are poly. A failure to do so goes against informed consent.

And she never told me when she started dating someone else

Scarf was in a polyamorous relationship with 8 to 10 people. I don't know the exact number. She cheated by not informing all her partners. In polyamory, you need to inform all potential future partners that you are poly so they can decide if they feel comfortable dating a polyamorous person. The failure to do so goes against informed consent.

Another important thing to remember is polyamory is ethical nonmonogamy. A polyamorous person should only date as many partners as they have time for. I am polyamorous and my personal limit is dating no more than 4 partners at a time. Other people’s limits will vary. One could argue dating that many people isn't ethical.

Some users have also come out about Scarf being emotionally manipulative.

JESUS 8-10, WITHOUT THEIR KNOWLEDGE?!

damn
the post im considering is about how I got suddenly confessed to by scarf after we talked for maybe 5 minutes while she had a partner (Hazel for sure, I don't know about anyone else). I didn't say much other than no thanks (since I don't wanna date anyone (especially online)), but before i told her "no thank you", i asked someone i was chatting with how to reject someone. I didn't tell them who, but they figured it out and told me they had been confessed to too. (i wont reveal their name)
I have the screenshots too

Now that this is oming out its kinda insane how quickly she just confessed to me, and also how many people considering a random person I was chatting to had been told that scarf had a crush on them

no hate tho some people just fall n love really easily
it just feels fake to me

i feel like someone (unless they already have) should tell people to confrm that everyone knows that they know everyone in a poly relationhip.