they said self harm, not suicide
when someone self harms, it's actually a sign they don't want to commit suicide
i've been talking with them, they've explained to me that they're considering doing it just to feel something. I'm doing a damn better job making sure he doesn't actually do something stupid then just saying "don't be sad" or "call 988" ever could
btw 811 is the national hotline to request digging in your yard. 988 is the suicide hotline.