But in both situations the victim has a right to be afraid. grooming could lead to rape, and people have died from being raped. And in either situation it is never the victims fault, its their fault because they didn't want to be touched but they got touched anyway? That doesn't make sense now does it. 91% of women and 9% of men have been groomed and/or raped and only 16% of the people who did such things to others are arrested. And assholes like you trying to justify that type of shit don't make it any better, in fact it makes it worse. Its not ok for people to do that to others so stop trying to make it sound like it is, especially since the person was only a child when that happened to them.