"Gender is made up goobledegook to connect actual nature born sex to a personality"
No, it's not
"So what's effectively be done by you left, who can't even say what a woman is, Is decided how a woman must act and look"
Nope. Wrong again. Gender isn't necessarily about telling anyone how they need to act or look. It's about how a society or individual sees the expression of someone's sex
I know it's a complicated subject, but it can be understood by people who actually want to understand it